The clash

There are two kind of people on social networks: The performers and the audience.
The problem is that the audience criticize the performers for being highly active,while the performers wonder why is audience interested in their lives so much.
I have been observing this since quite alot of time.Our society loves to judge people around, therefore if they can’t be active on social networks they become an audience and start judging the one who is highly active.I have seen Desi aunties posting up nothing but joining the social sites anyway,just to gossip around? Omg too much pictures,omg this girl is an extrovert, she should have been under her parents control etc etc.If you are against all this stuff do not become the part of it,if you cannot be a performer do not become the audience, realize the fact that you too are no less, wanting to get entertained by their posts.
Same goes for the performers,if you don’t like people being interested in your Life stop posting everything on social sites,stop entertaining them.
To both the parties,if you’re an active user stop complaining of people being too interested in your life whereas the audience shall stop passing judgemental comments, because judging will Never make you feel good about your life. May Allah forgive us all.
~Tayyaba Adam

Reality check

There are two kind of people on social networks: The performers and the audience.
The problem is that the audience criticize the performers for being highly active,while the performers wonder why is audience interested in their lives so much.
I have been observing this since quite alot of time.Our society loves to judge people around, therefore if they can’t be active on social networks they become an audience and start judging the one who is highly active.I have seen Desi aunties posting up nothing but joining the social sites anyway,just to gossip around? Omg too much pictures,omg this girl is an extrovert, she should have been under her parents control etc etc.If you are against all this stuff do not become the part of it,if you cannot be a performer do not become the audience, realize the fact that you too are no less, wanting to get entertained by their posts.
Same goes for the performers,if you don’t like people being interested in your Life stop posting everything on social sites,stop entertaining them.
To both the parties,if you’re an active user stop complaining of people being too interested in your life whereas the audience shall stop passing judgemental comments, because judging will Never make you feel good about your life. May Allah forgive us all.
~Tayyaba Adam

WOMEN-a real life all rounder

You have heard about SUPERMAN ,BATMAN ,IRONMAN ,but, let me tell you something about a character whose strengths and efforts are least considered, a WOMAN.

When a woman dreams to pursue higher education and achieve her goals she faces barriers ,which she considers as a challenge, through her entire journey. These challenges are what men neither face nor are they aware of.

We have our exams and if the guests come we can not only serve them(which is the part of hospitality and one should do that)and leave but also sit with them, talk to them as long as they are there or else we are going to be labelled as ‘THE RUDE ONE’ forever.  Despite of the busy schedule we do somehow manage to make time for the CHORES, cooking, maintaining the bedroom, arranging the wardrobe and so on…..OH and we are all required by the society to look like a Barbie doll so we do somehow manage to maintain our physical appearance and simultaneously (along with the studies) we have to worry about how we look and what we wear to get up to date.

We do not simply sit on the couch and study, getting food served on the plate during the exams, we do take care about our responsibilities towards family and somehow try to balance the situation. Facing the real world, full of guys who are ready to play and make fool out of young girls, we do sometimes find it difficult to protect ourselves. With the studies, by the time as every individual is required to be good enough in his/her social skills, we again have to strike a balance between fine interaction and over socializing. No matter how important it becomes to socialize, we are liable to our parents with who we talk and where we go. Even if the exams end we cannot make sudden hangout plans to refresh our mind, celebrate the relief, there is a permission procedure that has to take place first.

The peer pressure initiates when the relatives and cousins of our age starts to get married, that really is a tough time for us. After all the sacrifices and the sleepless nights we often get to hear desi women saying ‘there is no use of all this, this is a waste, all you should focus at is the kitchen, that is your only place’, and we are required not explode at this, not at all because again we will be judged for a lifetime.

It is not only us, facing the society but are parents too. They are strong enough to trust us and make us stand beyond what the society expects. Never for once I will say that men don’t struggle or their journey is without challenges, no. Never for once I will say that each and ever girl faces these challenges,like obviously situation differs among the families. The purpose of this blog is not to discriminate but to highlight the barriers and challenges a woman faces which often go and have been unnoticed by the society, she is expected to be an ALL ROUNDER.

Thus BEHIND EVERY SUCCESSFUL WOMAN there is a FAMILY, a collective support, a list of struggles, a combine effort. NEVER take that EASY!

¬TAYYABA ADAM

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Such comfort!

Sometimes tranquility makes us question things.I don’t know what’s wrong with me,not even sure if it is wrong or the tranquility is real.
I have started adoring my life to such an extent that any emerging change scares me, even if it is a good one.Wanting my life to be a static one,I have been avoiding talking to new people even if they were nice to me.
I have been running away from social gatherings because I was adoring being visible to the only selected ones.I have been cancelling plans and resting at home simply doing nothing.
I don’t know where I have been spending my time,but all I know is that it was not wasted to please anyone rather it was invested on ME.Today when I see myself I realize that I have become a different person,different in a good sense.
I am free from negativity,I am free from the fear of being socially unacceptable. I am my own company, my own therapist.I am me in a true sense!
~TAYYABA ADAM

A day off!

Sometimes all you need is a day off;
a day where you just lay without caring how messed up your room is,adoring the cosiness of the blanket,tasting the bitterness of the coffee, inhaling the winters’ breeze and letting all your hair free from the bun ,without even caring to comb them.
You need not to care about the pile of books waiting for you on your sidetable and your phone notifying you about the battery being low.You need a day off to celebrate yourself with a lower and a T-shirt on,and forget about the socialworld.Skipping yoga for a day and being too lazy to apply the face scrub,you need to enjoy the original ‘YOU’
Sometimes you need a day off ,to spoil yourself,to treat yourself,to accompany yourself.Yes,you do deserve some time for yourself.
~Tayyaba Adam

You are the special one!

Some days you may feel odd one out;
you may feel worthless;
you may feel that there is no one,no one who cares;
you may feel that your life is full of people who are busy rushing,snatching what they want while you feel stupid for just choosing to wait;
you may feel that even if you leave the circus now,no one would realize your absence because you were just the odd one out,you were not like them,you were not the part of their game.A game where they are busy satisfying their desires,snatching,hurting, stepping on each others hearts,souls,breaking them emotionally,tearing them apart,being hypocrite,having dual personalities.Where no one cares.
If you feel this,you’re not the odd one out. You are one of those whom God has chosen to test just so that He can protect you from the circus where everyone is involved, to protect you from the after effects.You may feel alone,but, my dear He never leaves His chosen people alone,there is His continuous assistance which is not comparable to the company of the thousands of worldly creatures.
~Tayyaba Adam

Human but stubborn!

Its weird how frequently we say ‘miss you’ to the people we don’t miss and not to the one whom we actually do.Just for the sake of our ego or due to the fear of not being missed back,almost all of us choose to burry the feelings deep down somewhere in the heart.

We laugh,we hangout,we get ourselves busy in our schedule,just to pretend, to prove that life is all OK and that we have started moving on.But in actual we are dragging ourselves to survive.How difficult it is for the human creature to express what is there in their hearts.

Its weird that after pretending for such a  long time still some places, songs, pictures, even the TV shows makes all our struggle go waste. How easily the burried feelings turns out to be a fresh wound again.The human creature can bear this,an on going pain,just for the sake of their EGO!

~ Tayyaba Adam